We Luv Liv
by Emily Mahaney, Glamour, July 2014. Photos by Matthew Brookes.
Actress Liv Tyler - who was born to wear the new, grooviest seventies-inspired clothes - is taking over TV in HBO'a addictive new drama TheLeftover. Now she tells Glamour's Emily Mahaney about the wild plot twists in her own life too.
I'm 10 minutes into my chat with Liv Tyler when she drops a lesson so profound. I'm convicted she's quoting Oprah: "Sitting in the unknown isn't necessarily a bad thing," she says. "It can be liberating." Turns out, this optimism is pure Tyler - picked up perhaps
from some of the twists and turns she's experienced over the years. One of the earliest: In 1988. at age 11. Tyler discovered that her biological dad wasn't the man who raised her, Todd Rundgren, but Aerosmith rocker Steven Tyler instead.
And her latest life twist: After a 20-year film career. She's making her TV debut, as a star of HBO's mind-bending new drama The Leftovers. Tyler plays Meg. a woman who struggles with life after
part of the world's population disappears. "I fought for the role,"she says. "Sometimes a character comes along. and it feels right - like putting on perfect-fitting shoes." We love a girl who isn't afraid of
change, and asked her to dish on navigating the unique story ares in her three decades so far. Here's how they stack up:
On going from having no siblings to having three...
When Tyler met her (surprise!) sister Mia for the first time at an Aerosmith concert in 1988. "we were like twins: [similar] out- fits, both had a perm, which we found out later we'd gotten on the
same day." Tyler says. In the next few years. Steven Tyler had two more kids - another girl and a boy. "I have two sisters now. Mia and Chelsea, and a brother, Taj, and it's incredible." she says. "This
year we all Went up to Dad's house for [my son] Milo's birthday. I talked to Chelsea on the phone for an hour the other day; we both instantly felt better. Even though we have three different moms, we're from the same tribe."
On going from movies to tv...
"It's a bit trickier than I'd anticipated ," Tyler admits of her big career switch. "In a movie you know the beginning, middle, and end. You know your schedule. With television you're getting to know a
character as time goes by. You never know when you're going to be working. I've been through a metamorphosis, as an actor and as a woman I didn't know I was such a control freak! I'm so used to
planning; I can't do that anymore. I had to go day by day. And I came to this incredible conclusion: I had to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable. [I know now that] any storm that comes is not gonna blow [ me] down."
ON going from working woman to working mom...
"I'm [still] trying to figure it all out." Tyler says of this transition, which she made nine years ago with the birth of Milo. "I've developed this idea, which is probably not totally fair, that if you're
focusing on your career, your family life is gonna suffer, and if you're focusing on your family life, your career is going to suffer. You can't give 100 percent to both. Being second-generation entertainment
industry, you see the ups and downs, and it makes you more cautious. In the past years I definitely have chosen to put Milo first, but now that he's getting a bit older and more independent. I'm trying to
find a balance with fulfilling my goals and dreams as well." Does she want to have more children? "I always hoped that I would." she says.
On going from twentysomething to thirtysomething...
Often, when you're young, says Tyler (who turns 37 this month), "if you're curvy, you wish you were skinny; if you're short, you wish you were tall. And I think as you get older, you learn to appreciate
[your looks] 'cause it's sort of silly to be against yourself all the time. I've noticed a change in my face this year. The jowls I got from my dad seem more pronounced; I've got a couple of gray hairs. But I've
noticed that when I'm happy and healthy on the inside - eating well, laughing with my best friend - I feel more beautiful on the outside."
On going from happily married to happily single...
Tyler split from her husband of five years, British singer Royston Langdon, in 2008, and the transition was "very challenging," she says. "The whole experience of divorce is painful. It 's so complex.
It's not like it happens. then suddenly one day it's all better. It's a process, ever-changing." But even in divorce they've stayed close: "We're still a family because we have Milo together. No matter what
else is going on in our lives, the [two] of us are a unit as parents." And right now her friends are her soulmates "I tell my friend Victoria I want us to live on a farm together someday. I see myself growing old
with her. It's a beautiful thing to know that so many things come and go, but those friendships don't seem to go away."
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